A big word with so many implications. We need to live in moderation, we need to spend in moderation, we need to eat in moderation, and we need to drink in moderation. The list continues, but you get the point.
We live in a society that says moderation but advertises excess and extremes.
Watch any commercial, most shows on TV, look in any magazine. Extreme vacations, cars, beauty – you name it, it’s there in front of us day after day.In excess. The extreme.
And then blame and shame are tossed around when excess takes over. It can look different for different people.
Addictions – gambling, drug, alcohol
This is the kind of society we live in today, shaming and pointing fingers at those who fall to excess. Those who fall to advertising. It’s not a weakness, it’s believing what we see, what we hear and wanting that perceived happiness.
No wonder we’ve become an instant gratification society.
We want it all and we want it now.
How in the world can we combat this excess and chaos?
We need to become intentional.
Yes, conscientiously making decisions that benefit us and our short and long term goals. It’s about making deliberate choices that assist us in enjoying the little things we encounter on a day to day basis. It’s saving up to enjoy the splurge, and appreciating every moment of it with no guilt or hesitation.
Beyond that, thought, maybe it’s time to slow down and take a breath.
Once we’ve become enveloped in excess, we need to take a breath and slow down.
Whether it’s losing weight or paying off debt or breaking an addiction, they all take time. It’s taking things one day at a time and making good choices multiple times a day. Being patient is a challenge to overcome in the world of fast and faster. Do more and when you do more, then do even more. It doesn’t end.
Yet, it needs to. We need to slow down and find ways to live in the moment and to appreciate the good things going on in our lives. Some people have happiness journals, other people meditate, and some people can just smile and be grateful for right now.
It’s so easy to focus on the things that have gone wrong or things we don’t have and it’s okay to make goals and to dream, but it’s important to live in the now and put on our blinders and ignore the world of excess constantly being tossed our way. Appreciate the good in our lives, our friends, our families, our homes, our jobs – whatever it may be. We all have blessings and to remember those when we get frustrated or disheartened. What you see on TV or in magazines is not reality, those are fantasies created to encourage us to live in excess.
- Keep a journal – Write at least one thing down that day that you appreciate, made you happy, or are grateful that happened.
- Get outside – Take a walk and take in your surroundings. Take in the fresh air. Smile and say hello to the people you pass.
- Don’t compare yourself to Others – Everyone has their own struggles. Everyone. So don’t envy someone’s life because you don’t really know what they are juggling in their life.
- Volunteer – Sometimes giving back can help our mental well being even more.
- Make Goals – Making today better than yesterday, making tomorrow better than today. If you’re not satisfied, what can you change and how are you going to accomplish those changes. Make goals and break them into baby steps. Make they are goals and changes that you have control over, not relying on someone else. If you want a new job, great, what steps will get you there? What can YOU do to make that change. Making goals help you become intentional in the choices you make.
We all live in a world of excess and it’s so easy to become engulfed in what we don’t have rather than appreciating the things we do have. Today, take that step to be thankful for something. Anything. And build off that step! We all deserve to be happy, to be grateful and to have goals to always improve.