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I’m going with a few mom friends tonight to one of those paint events, you know, the ones where you get to drink wine and paint with other adults? I might be in the minority because I’ve never done this before, and it seems like every single one of my Facebook friends have participated in a wine and paint night. There’s some irony there because so many of my posts are about taking care of yourself, not just your family. Spending adult time with friends IS part of just that concept. It’s still difficult to understand that putting yourself first is not selfish, especially during Mother’s Day and our birthday. It really should not take a special holiday to treat ourselves well, and here are some reasons why.
There’s a bonus with this post that I’m super excited about as well! I work with three other bloggers and we have created a great Mother’s Day theme between our posts and have created some very different ways to to treat ourselves and the ones we love with extra love this Mother’s Day. So, besides a great checklist of ideas on any budget of things we can do for ourselves, there are links to other posts of ideas for the upcoming holiday! I can’t wait to hear what you think.
Carve Out Time for You
Like many people, I have many excuses why I don’t get out at night with friends, some of the reasoning a bit more legitimate than other reasons – pure exhaustion taking center stage. Even today, I’m tired and part of me wishes I hadn’t agreed to go. Is it all because I am tired, or is there a bit of mom guilt too? Probably, because I feel that I’m being selfish for doing something with friends.
The reality is that we need to pamper ourselves, take care of our mental health, and enjoy times cultivating adult friendships. It doesn’t have to include an event that costs money though. There are ways to pamper ourselves, enjoy the company of friends that can be quite friendly on the budget. It truly is about spending time with people that make us happy, spending time by ourselves indulging in some quality alone time. It’s about pampering ourselves and not relying on other people to pamper us.
Not Just Holidays
We shouldn’t need a holiday to take care of our own needs. Mom’s often get one day besides their birthday and that’s Mother’s Day. Mother’s Day. Such an interesting holiday. All the expectations and celebrations ride along with the stress and disappointments when things don’t meet the perfect visual. There’s also competition, who was treated better by their families, more keeping up with the Jones’s especially with social media front and center.
Here’s the thing though. For some moms, it might be best to create your own perfect day.
There are studies and professionals out there who continuously lecture parents that they need to start putting themselves first and then the needs of their families. The added pressure of taking care of yourself and then your laundry list of household chores, work responsibilities, marriage, kids, pets, etc. The list really does go on.
So, Mother’s Day, a day about celebrating mom. Instead of relying on a spouse or kids to plan your day, YOU plan it. This SHOULD be a day mom’s take for themselves. And don’t worry about the Jones’s because you’re choosing things that make you happy.
Does spending a quiet day with your immediate family make you happy? Awesome!
Would you rather go see a movie or go sit at a coffee shop with a good book…alone, sound more appealing? Do it!
Go out to eat? Cook? Not cook? Clean? Don’t clean?
Think about what would make things easiest for you? Some women enlist their family to get some serious decluttering done around the house. Hey, it’s your day, everyone needs to buck up and take on their own part.
Here are 5 reasons we need to pamper ourselves
Taking time out to care for ourselves, doing something that we enjoy can reduce physical and mental stress. It gives us a chance to catch our breath and enjoy the moment we’ve created for ourselves. It gives our body and brain a chance to re-group. Starting a simple, small garden can help us reduce stress. AYUBOOM Garden Tool Set,Gardening gifts,Gardening Hand tools set,13 Piece Gardening Kit, Garden Gifts for Men & Women,Durable Storage Bag, Garden Gloves,Seeds Bag,Plant Labels,Garden Tie
There are numerous roles we must step into every single day. From parent, to co-worker, caregiver, chef, housecleaner, gardener, friend…the list really goes on. We spend so much of our day doing things for other people that, at some point we’re bound to burn out. Taking time for yourself is paramount in helping avoid burnout.
Multi-tasking although at times a necessary skill to have in this day and age, study after study prove that we are not meant to multi task and it affects our performance quality, learning and ability to live in the moment. Although we might not be able to break our multi-tasking habit, carving out time to focus just on yourself can often help us ‘reset’. This is a great time to journal. Write down those things you want, you need, or that you are grateful for in your life. Buy a journal that speaks to you. This one has a great starting point – right here, right now! Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration
Improved Physical Health
For some, pampering themselves means going to the gym without kids in tow. It can mean taking a long run without stroller. Taking care of our bodies SHOULD be looked at as pampering because having a strong heart and a strong body means easier mobility and an increased ability to keep up with others.
We Need to Love Ourselves to Love Others
It may sound cheesy, but the reality remains. If we don’t take care of our own basic needs, nobody else is going to do it for us. Not our parents, not our kids, not our spouses and not our friends. I’ve heard too many stories and read too many Facebook posts from people who get disappointed on Mother’s Day or their birthday because they didn’t get what they felt they deserved. Here’s the thing, you absolutely deserve to be pampered, and you need to make sure you create that time for you! Don’t rely on other people. Love and respect yourself first. Something simple can often go a long way, such as 6 XL USA Made Lush Bath Bombs Kit – Organic Coconut oil and Shea Butter – Mothers Day Gifts For Women – Bath Fizzies – Best Gift Ideas and Gift Sets – Use with Bath Bubbles Basket Bath Beads.
If the idea of taking care of you first seems foreign or uncomfortable, that’s okay. I’ve created a FANTASTIC PDF that includes more than 30 ways to pamper yourself and the ideas range from free to extravagant, from wonderful, small first steps to bigger things.
For some incredible Mother’s Day ideas, click below to check out these posts written by the bloggers I mentioned at the beginning of my post! These fantastic women have some super creative ways to celebrate you this Mother’s Day. I hope you enjoy reading their posts as much as I have!
Lorrie over at Stony Ridge Farm shows us how to make a Tabletop Herb Garden for mom.
Ramona over at The Digi Crafter teaches us how to make a Mother’s Day Memory Book.
Tiffany over at Lake Life State of Mind created a mouth watering Make Ahead Praline French Toast.