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When it comes to losing weight and getting healthy, there is no finish line. I don’t know about you, but I’ve read that so many times and on some level it makes sense. I get it. But, as I experience it for myself, it’s been a challenging concept to comprehend.
I worked my butt off to lose the weight. I made tough decisions and dug deep for some serious willpower. And here I am, still struggling to make good decisions. There are days I just want to throw in the towel and quit. I haven’t yet, but the thought has crossed my mind more times than I’m willing to admit.
Setting Goals not Resolutions
Yet, I continue to create goals, not resolutions. Resolutions are hard fast and rigid. Goals offer flexibility and can be altered and changed as we move forward day to day.
A resolution is something we create, usually a the beginning of the year and often have negative connotations and/or are very vague. Some ideas are: I’m not going to eat junk food anymore, I’m going to lose 50 pounds, or I’m going to be happier. Yet, resolutions fail at an alarmingly high rate!
We need a better approach, a more positive approach to reaching our hopes and dreams. We need to create goals, big fancy goals. Goals that can be broken down into smaller, achievable and measurable pieces!
4 Benefits of Creating Goals
Goals Give you a Path:
Sometimes, setting a goal creates a path through the forest. It give you something to follow in the journey you are on and can help form a direct path from where you are now to where you want to be in the future.
Goals Provide Clarity:
When you create goals, you are creating the future you want to have and you can start to take steps to make that future a reality. You gain insight in realizing and identifying what is important and can allow you to focus energy in the right direction.
Goals are Measurable:
Big goals are broken down into smaller pieces and small achievements lead to the bigger goals. When you have set goals, you can measure your progress over time. Whether it is to lose weight, write a book, run a marathon – you can measure you progress based on the goals you have set.
Goals Provide Motivation:
When you sit and create goals, you get excited for the future you, visualizing you’ve reached the success. This can give you the motivation to keep moving forward because you know the steps and you know where you want to be.
How to Use Your Goals:
The best advice I have is to write them down. Buy a journal, something simple, like this:Thick Classic Notebook/Journal – Eco-Friendly Natural Cork Hardcover Writing Notebook with Pen Loop & Premium Thick Paper – A5 (5×8 ) Bound Notebook and buy awesome pens, such as Sharpie Pen, Fine Point, Assorted Colors, 12-Count and create something you want to write in every day. You can make it as simple or as complex as you want. I personally try to keep it simple so I don’t get too distracted!!
If you are stuck on coming up with goals, this kind of journal is a great way to get introspective:Start Where You Are: A Journal for Self-Exploration. I love things like this, but I have to be careful not to lose sight of my purpose – which is to create goals!
- Write your big goals down
- Break them into smaller pieces
- Write what you want to accomplish for the week
- Each day what steps are you going to take to make that goal a reality?
- At bedtime, evaluate the steps you took that day to reach your goals. How did they go? What could you do different tomorrow? Write it down.
The goals I Try and Follow:
Avoiding the Scale
I have not made any food or scale goals and I don’t think I will put weight as a meter of success. I’ve lost enough weight that, although I currently fall in the overweight category, I’m trying very hard not to let the scale number get to me. In a perfect world, I’d love to see the scale show 20 pounds less than it is at the moment. At the moment, I’m not willing to make the tough choices to try and get those pounds off. But, I feel like I’ve spent so many years focused on losing weight, watching the scale that it’s time to take a break.
That doesn’t mean going back to eating whatever, whenever. It means it’s time to make some different goals. And in order to not obsess about my weight, I’m trying to focus on some fitness goals.
Always looking Ahead
Life derails the best laid goals sometimes. A surgery I had towards the end of summer ended up causing complications, preventing my return to the gym for an additional few weeks. I am back and feel like I am at ground zero again. My current goal is to remain uninjured as I regain my strength and endurance. I have a few other goals I want to accomplish in the next year.
Spartan Race – My endurance is pitiful, but this is still something I want to accomplish.
Half Marathon – I have these grandiose fantasies that I’ll take up running and love it. Unfortunately deep down, I know I hate running. I’m so slow. But, it’s still on my to do list.
Unassisted Pull Up – Not all goals have to be big. I want to be able to do a pull up without bands. It’s a goal.
Improve My Eating – This will be a forever goal. I slip into bad habits and have to dust myself off and re focus on eating healthy. My goal is to not slip so many times and to create a simple to follow meal plan for myself.
We all need goals, something to work towards. Sometimes we might need to take a break and create different goals, something new to focus on. That’s okay. Don’t lose the habits you’ve created.